I suffered terribly for years and then it was discovered I had Nasal Polyps which were removed and I have been fine since-I had also lost my sense of smell but it returned. I used a nasal spray called Nasonex( don't know what it's US name is) and it was great. Hope you both feel better soon. In Scotland we have no chance of hayfever this year, it seems to have been cold and rainng for weeks, I have only worn my sandals twice this year