I'm so very sorry, that I've just picked up on this thread, and not sure I saw the original writer stop back in... (My fault).

But, the last thing any of us RSD's want (especially a husband) is pity. We need happiness to surround us, and don't let our pain to stop you!

Forget feeling sorry! Forget it!
You're feeling sorry for yourself! Not for him!
(Sorry for being so bold, but, truth is the only way to be).

So, pick up, and get on with YOUR life!
Did you depend on Him too much?
Maybe.

Get up, Get on, be Happy!

That's all I can tell ya!

I'm the husband with RSD.

Pete

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