Hi cherokee928 and welcome to NeuroTalk. I'd like to recommend a book to you. An Unquiet Miind by Kay Redfield Jamison. Dr.Jamison is bipolar and has learned and earned her successes in life through trial and error.

She is an international authority on manic-depressive illness, and one of the few women who are full professors of medicine at American universities....living proof that you "shouldn't throw out the baby with the bath water".

I understand your fear of her going off the medicine...bad idea, but she will learn this through her mistakes. I loved this book and refer to it often..to me it is full of promise and hope.

My best to you and your family.