Hi Showdy,
I too feel for you, in my opinion the paracetamol are a bit like smarties and I hate the opiates, I hate the way they make me feel and the fact that they don't work either.
I too have a SCS, since last December. It works really well for my left side back and left leg so obviously I haven't a clue about the arm and neck. It has literally saved my life and I wouldn't think twice about putting it in.
I dunno, I guess do as much research as you can, here is a good start, talk to your doctor, ask tons of questions and hopefully you and you're family will come to some good decision.
Wishing you every luck and I hope the pain gets easier.
All the best,
Sophie