I will post my son's story on another thread. Only because I feel this
needs to stay your daughter's thread.

Or If folks here feel I need to do that in a private message I can do it that way. But I don't believe they know his story either. And its not something that is anything I'm ashamed of. It will be later tomorrow though.

But for now. I will add some things here for you. Just from my own journey.
And because I think these things are ways you can communicate, to
her that she is loved and wanted even if its just one night.


First, please accept the fact that she is a grown young lady. Next, make it known and do this only if you and your husband both can do so.
Make a ovature, for say a dinner with the two of them and you two.
THen when they accept and come. Make it a nice friendly as you can
accomplish one.

I would talk about some simple things like:
1. If she hasn't finished high school. Let her know you and your husband
would like to say buy $ 100.00 worth of clothes, and things for school.
But that you want to go with her.
2. If she needs to go or wants to go to a doctor's appt. You would really
feel honored if she would allow you to accompany her to the appt.
You would be more than willing to sit in the waiting room. Unless she says
otherwise.
3. I would bring up the subject of children. With both of them. But not for not wanting them to have them. But because of the meds she was on.
I would then explain to her, the fact that she will have some of those medications still in her system, for up to say 6 months in some cases. And
that they can be harmful to a fetus, or unborn baby.
4. That you realize they would like a baby right away, and even though you would like them to wait. You will love and help with this baby. But would
like her to stay on the shot for 6 months, to give your grandchild, their child the best healthy chance at life.

And lastly the one thing I've had to remind myself all these years.

There is a reason, my son (your daughter) was given to me to raise, love and nuture. And I believe god isn't going to give me more than I can do.

So take it from a veteran in tough love. You can do this. And I honestly
believe she is asking you to be patient with her.

I found with my son, the more I stayed on the outside, helping him grow and learn. The better man he has become.

And I can say for a fact I'm very proud of who he has become.

Donna