I feel for you! I knocked heads with my brother, and - while the initial hit was painful for both of us - he's still "normal" and I'm not.

I also understand the independence thing. Something to think about from not-at-all-fun personal experience... sometimes it's better to choose to give up some independence than to wait for things to get so bad that you have no choice.

I've lost a lot of "pride" since this happened.

My brother has been very caring and helpful - but it has been difficult for him as well. Almost overnight, he lost the sister he had always known and neither of us knew what had happened. While I often resented him for not helping more - it was difficult for him to know how to help (I had little self-awareness or ability to communicate effectively) or how to handle the emotional monster that I had become.

As I begin to recover, I realize that he went over and above; the only reason he didn't do more was lack of knowing what could be done.

So... hang in there... if you can, allow people to help you... you'll make it!