OOOOOPS! You are so right about not getting the soft collar w/o consulting with the surgeon. Mine actually recomended it for me when I was having problems after my first cervie. He said it all depended on the nature and location of the procedure and the length and shape of the neck. He said some necks just aren't suitable for doubling up. Thankfully, when I woke up after the second and third operations, the soft collar was already in place. Each patient and their needs differ to some extent.

What you will need more than anything is a double dose of patience. It takes time to heal from this. Often it is two steps forward and one back. Follow the intructions you have been given and don't push the envelope. Best wishes.