This has really touched a nerve but I am glad people are talking. You all are inferring all kinds of wrong nformation from my post which I understand because of the tendancy to be defensive. I NEVER said support groups are wrong! I never said I don't support the idea. I did say for every support group you go to try to balance it with another interest. I am not accusing, singling out or denegrating anyone. If you notice I include myself in all of the pitfalls I talk about. Please really read the words and don't try to assign tone, we rarely ever do that correctly. Frogga, I happen to think you are a great example of keeping balance.