"She is currently on the depo shot but I was told she would not be getting her next dose as she doesn't need it. She wants to get pregnant and have a baby. I informed her bf mother of this and was told, well it will be my grandchild and I will take care of it. I seriously am at a loss of what to do. This woman seems to think she is dealing with a "normal" 18 year old girl and that we are the problem, that we gave our child drugs and that was what was wrong with her.[/QUOTE]


I haven't read everything, but enough to know that you have probably been through A LOT! And are worried sick. I do know that folks tended to not believe me when I explained our relative with this illness until they saw some things for themselves. First thing I was going to tell you was to make sure she was taking the shot, but I see that has already been attempted.
There are few things I would fight for, but this is one of them.
I would even consider driving your stpe daughter to the doctor to take the shot and sweeten the deal with a present each time like a gift certificate to her favorite restaurant (one that doesn't serve alcohol). However, if she is insistant on getting pregnant....you can only try to do this....may not work at all.

Anyway, I believe you said she is 18 or older. Due to this fact, you might consider offering her if you can afford to do so, health insurance, therapy, medication and birth control. What I mean by this, is offer to pay for all of these things.

Anything else, not so much unless she makes a personal decision to treat you and your husband with respect and decency.

If that is the case, then I would offer SOME help with additional areas like food, shelter and clothing.

If she continues to have great difficulties managing her life, then she might be a candidate for Social Security Disability down the road. However, to the best of my knowledge, she would need to see a doctor and best if she is seeing one regularly for this to even be considered.

Whatever you do, do NOT let her difficulties get between you and your husband. AGain, offer her medical care if you are able and then if she refuses to be respectful to you...walk away from anything else. She likely needs to find her own way.

It sound harsh, but you can not cause yourself personal harm due to her inability to do the right thing (s) including taking medication, going to therapy, being respectful and responsible.

Please take good care of yourself and enjoy life to the VERY best of your ability.