You go, Maree! Doctors, regrettably, are as lazy as the rest of us in seeming to think some diseases age or gender connected, which explains why young women's heart attacts are so offer undiagnosed & most early onset demensias passed over.
Here are a couple of links to forums here where you might find kindred souls & useful info. You'll find several young stroke victims on that forum, many new to the battle who would find you an inspiration.
Vitamins/nutrients/herbs forum:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum49.html
Stroke Forum:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum23.html
Mega-cheers for your "Since I was 38 when my life ended, i am NOT into acceptance" attitude! Not all will agree with me, but I too am more inclined to rage against the dying light...
Let us know how it's going, how you're feeling, what we can do.