JoeT,

I know exactly what you are saying. The struggle to be spontaneous with others is a big problem with me too. I can not chit chat or do other non-specific dialog.

I find that if I need to say something to someone, I need to rehearse it in my mind first. If I don't, I will often get lost or confused as I try to talk. My wife knows when I am just shutting down and can cover for me. Others just think I am weird or rude.

Joe, You are with friends who understand.

My best to you.