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Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 2,871
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Magnate
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 2,871
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Originally Posted by Just Jacquie
Thank you all, bizi, Mari and Di. I kept looking around for an active forum where I could receive love and support, and I don't know why I hadn't checked in here??! Di, I remember when you lost your daughter. I felt so bad for you. Now, it seems, it is your turn to support me  Thank you for that!!
I plan to hang around here as much as I can. I'm so glad that I re-discovered you all!!
Hugs  to all, Jacquie |
Welcome home, we are always here for each other, I may not have answers that can make things better, but a heck a lot of deep caring love and support. This is still so new, raw and deep with you both.
I never was happy with health care for the mental health needs. All about the legal issues, medication to catatonic state, but where is the quality of life, the compassion and helping. Your husband has less coping skills then most, the regret of why her not him, but the family needs you both and you need each other. Health care should be about equiping, not just a pill. I would be leary to get him home too soon. But, wonder what really good mid point facilites they are.
There has to be communication and he can't do that medication into catonic state.
I never did get back to church after De passed away. But, the church family has been there for me with their prayers. I saw miricles the last few years, and heartaches. My son had his tumors in the brain disappear off the pituatary gland without surgery. I had a long litigation from my daughters passing when dead beat dad that wanted nothing to do with litigation with Pharmy co., sued me for my settlement.
It was horrific, being accused of neglect of her care, that I threatened to kill her, and he was so wonderful but I kept him from the kids...
The gang her helped me get throught the two years with unconditional support. In the end the Judge got it right and my family prevailed. But reliving every one of the stressers of life took a toll. I know we need to take care of ourself, but when is there time, and how is it even possible. So I live life through my family. Every precious moment, stressful or blessed.
Now we are here for you.
We are all here for each other unconditionally.
Jacquie are any of your parents alive? Mine were gone when I went through my loss. It would have helped to have them. DH, because it was not his own dd, had a different loss then mine and that has been hard.
I needed a ton of things to help, when I could get to the counselor, not a psych, but a woman that got life, was my focus finder and stress reliever. I am so thankful for the time I have been able to make with her. She was a PT first, so understood physical challenges too.
I try to cherish something every day. I cry at night....but try to look for something to make those around me know how much they mean to me.
A huge huge coming to you. You are deeply a part of my heart.
Thank you for sharing Andrea's photo. That is one huge part of my keeping her close in my signiture. I get to see De with me supporting me always. You will find it a part in your heart as you post too.Di
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