Welcome
Bless your hearts. That's a lot to go through.
Yes, there's lots of people here.
Here's a link to get started:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum14.html
Here's also a caregivers link:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum56.html
just click on it and create a thread.
You can also use the "SEARCH" feature to find some things.
I know you don't have a lot of time to be on a computer. If you have direct questions to ask, go ahead and post those. Maybe someone will read it and give you their experience or comfort for you and your wife.
Prayers for you both.