The depth & breadth of loss that struck me when my mother died was beyond any sorrow I had experienced to that point in my life, including the deaths of my husband & infant daughter.

Your example of thinking of things to call your mom about is exactly what I do....& for me it's been 21yrs! You say, "Mom's are our best friends, our cheerleaders, and our safe zones," and mine was all that. I know there were times when she may not have liked me much (I'm an alcoholic), but she always loved me; I knew that too. When she was gone, I was truly alone in this world in a way I had never dreamt of.

I wonder whether it's the same sort of thing for fathers & sons.

Thank you, girlfriends, for this thread. Warm thought to you all in our shared understanding of what we had, what we loss. A special hug for Lara.

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C.G.. . . .a work still being worked on