You are in a very difficult situation, but you know that. Can you take the very sage advice that you gave Jasper? You advised him to "do what you have to do and make your life right for you." WoW! Spot on!

Do you go to AA? Al-Anon? With him drinking, both would help. Is there a time, maybe when he's at work, when you could go?

You sound much too bright to be so hopeless. Please bring your objectivity to bear here. I think the world could really benefit from you, sober.