Thank you for a timely post, Nightnurse30. I've actually been thinking about this a lot lately, the fact that at 40, I will never be the same person that I was at 39. I may not ever feel like "me" again - after 39 years with the "old" me, I'm kind of partial to that one.

This realization has, so far, just made me angry. Angry that I was in an accident that wasn't my fault, angry that there's not someone who can tell me how to fix it and exactly how long it'll take, and angry that I'm angry! Normally I was a very positive person and this has changed me. I'm not sure if I can start to grieve the loss of the old me while I'm this angry. I started with a cognitive therapist this week and have my first post-eval session tomorrow and I hope that as I learn and make some progress about handling this new way of life I'll get past being mad.

Thanks again for posting this - it made something I had been thinking more "concrete" and I'll definitely keep this as a reminder!