I agree with you about informed choice. But hospices are different from hospitals. They are there for the comfort of the patient (I even heard of one thaqt let a ladies cat stay with her,.

My bil wasn't married to his gf yet she stayed with him all the time. They got married a few days before he died. Check out the different hospices. They all have different rules. If you do this now you'll at least have option. Also have them update you on changes. The hospice here in Grand Junction are also great.

I do understand what you're saying but being alone when you die is a tough option.

and you're right about our attitudes towards death in this country. anything not "nice" no one wants to hear about or see. To bad Jack Kevorkian was vilified. I feel he was doing God's work for those of us in pain. And the gov has made sure no one else takes up his work