Dear Mrs. Bear,
The job tension sound horrid. Maybe the valium will help you temporarily.

Can you get a liaison (i don't know court terms) so that you never have to deal with the ex a again? Maybe you already don't deal with him. I hate when fathers make their own kids' lives miserable. He's lucky he has a mom like you to protect him.

I hope his medical stuff gets resolved easily and soon for him and for you.

M