Mrs, Bear you have so much too on your plate and stressers...
I wish a big old hug would help, I feel bad that bad things always seem to pile up on people that are kind and have tons of loads to deal with.

If I figure out the answer, If I can help in a minute I would send you the resloution, in the mean time, you are in my heart and mind...
Tackle just one thing at a time, the most important to lesser. I am also disappointed in work...hands are so tied as in your case. We care too much, others don;t give two sh*ts.
Sending you love,
Di