Hockey said: "a partner who doesn't always understand the trials of our daily lives can lower desire. "Come hither, you big, insensitive clod." See what I mean?"

ROFLWMP (literally)

Over many years I discovered that lack of desire did not mean I couldn't get aroused. I finally realized that turning down sex with my beloved was making him unhappy and I stopped saying no. It was amazing how our relationship, and his sensitivity, improved after that. No longer fearing rejection, he bloomed. I am lucky -- he is gone, and I have sweet memories and no remorse about loving words unsaid.