OH! there is a girlie involved! hehee...men will do silly, crazy, wild dangerous, and expensive things to attract a mate. They shave their heads, they buy diamonds the size of their pinky fingers, they rev their cars at stop lights, and work hard to attract and thrill thier potential mates. If you are not of that age, and thrilled by those things, you simply stand by and shake your head.

My son takes wonderful vehicles that are in great running condition and perfect mechanically because he fixed them, and takes them THRU the back woods, with axel deep mud, and dangers, to impress his girlie. Comes home covered in mud, cant see out the windsheild pumped up so full of testosterone that he can hardly walk straight from his escapes into the world of cave man style mate selection. The gas he wasted! The time he will have to spend now cleaning that machine (he doesnt want to clean it, its a badge of honor!) and lets not even get into what an insurance risk he is putting up! (can you hear the grown up in me?!) I almost cried the first time he came home with a tatoo on his precious little arm. its the chinese symbol for Fire! he wanted at the time to be a fireman, and worked hard on the local rescue squad. Now that he is grown, and doesnt work on a squad, he looks down and realizes how out of place it looks. but that didnt stop him from getting a band around the other arm that says 4x4 all the way around, for mudding in the woods!

The best you can do is speak to him. Let him know you have "heard it thru the grapevine" and while you cant help but have your own opinion about it, that you hope he will slow down a minute. Think about how many other toys that money would buy. Think about how many other girlies may or may not want a man who is "sleeved out" Tell him you love him either way, and let him go. Soooo much easier said than done, but you have done a great job! He wont learn how to walk if you dont let him scrape a knee, or decorate his arm. ((hugs))