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Originally Posted by Kitty
This is such a selfish "want", in my opinion. I thought I taught him better than this.
Somehow I feel partly responsible for this because I feel like the past ten years my kids have been shouldering the "burden" of trying to make sure I'm okay (due to DH's death) and then due to my dx of MS. Neither of which I could have done anything about but I still feel guilty because of it. I feel like he's finally feeling like he can break free and live his own life and this is just a result of that. Plus, his girlfriend has one on her back and I think she's influencing his decision. If he'd just wait 6 months and then, if he still wants it, then do it I'd feel somewhat better about it.
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Well not to minimize but as a young person without children to support I don't think a "selfish want" is out of line and it is very possible that he has thought about if for the past six months. Both his brother and gf have one so I wouldn't blame her for it.
I do get it and the truth is I still feel slighted that my mother, who doesn't have unlimited resources, purchased another young horse that I will likely be responsible for caring for when she passes away. Although I'm a grown woman I felt as if she was being selfish for not thinking about what my future financial needs may be and yet when I think about it rationally it is ridiculous and I'm the one being selfish. No one is responsible for caring for me but me.
