boy can i relate, and sympathise, although i'm on the complete opposite end of the spectrum. you seem to be doing very well, and your husband isn't helping your recovery, you are the only one who can answer "would i be OK without him?" if your answer is yes, and you would be physically and emotionally able to cope on your own (with or without children, i didn't see), & if you've coped being alone before, and you can't see being with him, as helping either of you, then you are reaching for us to say what you already know!
i don't want to hijack your post, but i see myself in a similar and yet altogether different scenario, my partner is the one with the TBI, and he's the needy one and its killing me, and our relationship. That probably sounds horrendous to all of you who have suffered with TBI's yourselves, but i'm getting to the end of my tolerance. its been 13months since my partner's condition took a turn for the worse, and there's no improvement, in fact he's declining due to his circumstances, waiting for a judgement too, unable to work, unable to drive, and with a 24/7 supervision inplace for his own safety we can't even live together. He does nothing, and he's drowning. and i'm not sure i can go down with him. i can't fix anything, i've worked my *** off trying to get him to Dr's and laywers, no one seems to understand his condition, nor make him any better. i work 40+ hours a week, and drive 2+ hrs a day to get to work, i get home for 15mins and rush out to visit him. getting back at 9pm intime to sleep. i don't eat, i don't do anything except work & visit. (i'm sure i'm exaggerating, but that's how it feels) i'm so sorry for his loss, i'm so sympathetic to his condition, but his attitude, and his mood swings, and the unreasonable anger, all get taken out on me, and i am struggling being the one to take all this. if i stay with him, i'm going to loose myself, and yet i can't possibly leave our home, and the possibility that someday he could come back home, and be well again. (or at least a new kind of well) i'm just drowning, and i don't know what to do next. what Dr. can i call to get him to see, and why can't the medical & judicial system hurry up, so we can get on with our lives. Frustrated in Canada!