OK PM your DH(DumbHusband) is a total jerk, but he can possibly be saved. Here's what to do....friend the girl he is talking to and tell her all your troubles and would she want a guy who treats his wife like that. If she has a brain and is over 17, she will defriend him and run like the wind.

I was also the wife who did it all and we came close to splitting because I wasn't as independent anymore, but he came around after thinking he was losing me and we were married 35 years before he passed away in 2004. He became my best cheerleader.

I do hope it works out in the best way for you.