Kitty,
That is terrible to be treated that way! People can sure be cruel.
The pharmacy I get my patches from is a small 'mom & pop' type of place. They even deliver the meds.
I wonder, would you be so lucky as to have a similar type of pharmacy near you? I used to get patches from a huge corporate chain (Walgreens) and like you said, they would always make it such a hassle to get my prescription filled.
Doctors should make SURE that patients like you and me never have to go into withdrawal. Do you have some sort of pain med on hand for 'breakthru' pain, or for times when you might be in a tight spot trying to get the patches?
Is there a way you can get in with a bonified pain specialist, rather than just the PCP? Sounds like you need a better care than what you are currently getting. A specialist would work more one-on-one with you and perhaps monitor your seizures. It sounds like a dangerous situation you are in regarding the withdrawal-induced seizures and not wanting to go to ER for fear of getting the patches taken away. I really feel that your healthcare team should be aware of what's going on.
Not trying to butt-in , but I'm just concerned for your safety.

Do you have family/friends who can help out with some of this?
I'd hate to think you're alone in all of this.

Rae