I was able to change my life style and I do believe you can too. When my health went south, my weight was at an all time high 192 and I am 5'1". I decided that I could and would shed the weight, as I was having trouble with AATD of the ankles. My ankles broke down litterally. I had to do something or I would be in a wheel chair.
I started by not putting anything into my mouth that wasn't good for me. I made alot of SMALL changes. No coke and pepsi, no artificial sweetners, and ate alot of fruit. I also eat more vegatables. There is a sunsweet product of mango, that satisfied my sweet tooth. I don't use margarine, but real butter if I have any. I also used whole milk, there is something in there that is good for you. I gave up the ice cream. I cannot excersise because of my ankles being shot, so I did it all with just watching what I ate. I didn't count calories, but fruit was at the top of list of eating. I eat oatmeal, especially in the winter, and things like black bean and corn wraps. Lots of mexican foods with little fat. After the first few months, my stomach shrank, and it got easier. I believe anybody can do this if I did. I had been on every kind of diet know to man and it never worked. This was more of a life style change, where I was consious of what went into me. My portion size, I used small plates. I ate slower, and enjoyed the food more. I have a friend with whom I live, and we did this together, so I was not alone in food choices. You need support to be begin with. Ask me anything you have question about. I am now down to the weight I was at in high school. I lived my whole life fat, and now wonder why I didn't do it before this. I will be 60 this next month and weigh about 130. The weight has stayed off. I didn't weigh myself until others saw that I was loosing weight. their support spurred me on. I do gain back really easily if I give in to icecream, cupcakes and any of that stuff. However i do now eat normally, with those occasional treats. This is now my third year at a lower weight. You can do this sally. I really believe that. Any help that I can offer you, please tap back at me. Weight loss can happen, just be mindfull of all that you eat. I wish you all the best. ginnie