I am now following your story now as well. I work at a small hospital and have seen others in your situation. I am so moved by your story. It is so difficult to help your loved ones when they are not willing to be helped. It sounds like his pain and fever have affected his judgement. I have seen this in my own husband. This agreeable loving man becomes a snarling unreasonable beast when his pain reaches its peak. I want you to know you are not alone. As bad as it seems, this will pass and you will feel normal again.