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Originally Posted by BlueMajo
but hotels are sooo expensive I cant pay any... so, this woman I met in Houston in a concert precisely, offered me to share... the room... I mean, she is so clean and polite, but Im worried I might not be the best roomie... Im lazy and Im not the typical tourist if that make sense... I dont know... I feel uncomfortable but at the same time, it is a way to make this trip happen...
Argh... I feel just confused...  |
Dear Majo,
You and your cousin have different priorities in your lives at the moment. You are are a scientist. It is perfectly ok for you not to go to a wedding. Tell people you have work to do. You need to be in the lab.
Hotels in New York City are expensive. You have a good plan to go with a roommate. Make sure that you have a back up plan in case the roommate situation does not work out.
Visitors in New York City do not spend much time in the hotel rooms. You will be doing a lot of walking on the streets, grabbing bites to eat, getting ready for the concerts.
Keep the expectations low. Give the roommate a lot of space --- let her have quiet time in the room. She will need to have peace and quiet and so you will. Probably during the day time you too can go off and do different things. What I mean is that you want to make plans so that you are not with each other every single minute of the day.
Work it out so you can be by yourselves.
Even in the room you want to by yourself.
Even people who are very good friends or related to each other would not be able to spend every single minute of the two weeks together.
You can do this. Keep communicating with her now about her expectations so that you are in agreement.
M