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Originally Posted by Blaine
I haven't yet googled the combo you recommended and hopfully it will show me a workshop.
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Just copy (Ctrl-c) exactly what's in bold letters and paste (Ctrl-v) directly into a google search window.
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My husband does go to many of my appointments, but he just blocks them all out now. He blocks out my pain, and focuses on my behavor instead. Its sad - we've both done that to each other.
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I sort of understand that, and I don't. When I was very young and foolish, I accidentally stepped on my (then) fiancees glasses and broke them. Having perfect eyesight (at the time) I was insensitive how important they were to her - not realizing how blind she was without them, and putting a low priority on getting them fixed. The next time I came home from work she was in tears because she couldn't see to do
anything. To try to understand (and perhaps as some kind of penance) I went blindfolded for a day, and it (pardon the ironic humor) opened my eyes.
It's a lesson neither of us have ever forgotten. Now in later life, we're both
extremely sensitive to each others' pain & suffering, accompany each other to doctors (and take notes/ask questions) and act as mutual caregivers.
I don't know if it would help for him to monitor/join some caregiver support groups, or talk to some spouses in similar situations. I can imagine some things that may be going through his mind, and IMO, he needs to be set straight.
My best wishes for you both,
Doc