Hi Trkdvr!
You are soooo funny and made me laugg. Thanks. I needed that.
You are totally right in everything you said. That is exactly how I feel. This aid is about my sixth one since Jan this year and believe it or not she is the best one I had. Scary I know lol.
I have had some aids that are very quiet which I like but I have been in bad situations where I could barely move off the bed and one aid was ticked off because I called her boss as she took 1 1/2 hours for lunch and didn't want to work. I found out she was only to have 15 min break!! She started going off and I was a bit scared of her so I stayed in the other room and when she left about 20 mins later I locked the door and called her boss telling her never to send her back to me again. I have been through the ringer with aids. Most don't want to work. And I am here by myself a large majority of the time and I go out to take my dog right out front and I worry that some may try to harm me or take advantage of me somehow. I never thought at 40ish I would have to worry about someone harming me but I don't trust people at all.
You will be very proud of me today for what I did. She came in and kept telling me she had to get blood drawn for a blood test for TB or something (I wasn't even listening). She kept talking and talking so much that I was about to tell her to shut up (which I don't like to say). I was putting together a small Christmas tree and was absorbed in that and ignoring her. She would not stop. So I looked at her sitting about 4 feet from me and said "I'll bet you can't be quiet for 1 minute!" I think she was shocked and I said I need it quiet. She said well kathy I am sorry but I have to get blood drawn and I get nervous. I said you will be fine (Two days ago I got stuck six times for an iv and lived). She needs to stop whinning at me. She did shut up a bit then started again. I looked at her and said "The minute is not up yet." lol. She is quiet about two mins then starts with something stupid again. She said she wanted to leave early and I was like Yeah! I just don't get some people. She said she was an aid years ago but she just doesn't get rsd at all. I am going to do like you said and just look at her and tell her to be quiet I need it silent.
Good news is that I should have another aid hopefully within about a month. This person is a friend of a friend and is a bit quiet and does her work. I can't wait.
I even knocked on my new neighbors door above my condo and asked if they could keep the little girl from jumping loudly on my ceiling as I have a pain disease. So far so good as today there was no jumping. I was told the girl takes gymnastic classes. I said great but go to class and do it haha.
Thanks for everyone's help and suggestions. It is nice to know that I am not the only one going through this mess.
kathy d
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Originally Posted by trkdvr
I wouldn't have ANY problem letting her know whats what.
YOU are not being paid to care one whit how she feels,what she likes,how she wants things to be
SHE IS being paid to care how you feel,what you want, and what you like.
It is YOUR house and you can be just as cranky,demanding,bitty as you like thats your right and YOU are the customer!
She is not doing you a favor. She is being paid. She is also a dime a dozen. If she doesn't want to do as you say, then she can hit the road! I don't care if your writing the check or if it's paid on your behafe. You are the boss, if she doesn't defer to you, she needs to go.I can understand telling her once. but only once.
I say demand your right to customer service! Demand your wishes be met! Proclaim it is your home and your rules and what you say goes!
If the company doesnt want to cater to your needs there is always another one willing to.
I guess I am the grumpy one  
I am sorry, I wont tolerate any defiance from some twit in my own home. |