Welcome to NT!
This is such a wonderful place for support and understanding
I'm so sorry about what your son is putting you through.
This is NOT what we signed up for when we had our kids!

There are several great forums here that I know you'd benefit from, and it certainly does help to talk with others who care
Alffe has given you a great starting point...
We also have a Caregiver's Support forum, here's the shortcut link:
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum56.html

It's so good that you are reaching out like this.
I felt so alone in my battle until I found Neurotalk. Everyone is so down-to-earth
It's great to have you!

Caring,
Rae