Thanks Pete. I agree too. Problem is...what help is out there is really bad and this last aid was the best out of all of them (which doesn't say much about her) :.( When you are in the position that I am in I can't be too picky but it sure is stressful). I understand from being around people with ADHD that not everyone learns things at the same level so I was trying to take that into consideration. I am working on getting a friend of a friend to help me now. I hate to be dependent on anyone so rsd has been really hard for me to have to ask for help.

Update-----About 6:30 tonight my aid called me calm and quiet (for the first
time ever haha) and said she was sorry that she had a migraine earlier (I've
had migraines and never acted like that) and the music was too loud
(there was no music on at my house at all) and she had talked to her
boss about what happened today. She said she wanted to come back here
on Friday. I told her no. Then she said "Well do you want me to come back Wed and Fridays only?" I told her no that I would need to make a few phone calls and not to come back here and her boss would call her about it. She said well you didn't even call the boss. I said that I was not home all day (she knew I was at the doctors because she was supposed to go with me). Amazing how crazy some people are these days. I am hoping she has a drug problem as I cannot believe someone could be as crazy as this woman was. Thanks for all your help.
kathyd