Kathy,
I'm so, so sorry for what you are going through!
As you know, however, we must keep on being strong and push through these people who just don't get it.
It seems to me, that perhaps you are helping your 'aid', more than she's helping you?!!

Maybe she does some physical things (don't put up with them being done wrong), and you are helping her mentally? Does that sound right?

Either way, I know that You are a positive force in her life, and the Universe!
(not in a freaky way), haha.
But, good for you, for sticking' around!

Best Wishes!

Pete
asb