Hmm, that's a tough one. I'm almost 6 months in to my PCS and a little over a month ago I did the same thing - made the decision to come stay at my mom's. Which I'm not sure was a good or bad idea since the stress level here has been not much lower, if not, as stressful as the situation where I was staying before (roommates, girlfriend, kids). My mom is a bit more knowledgeable when it comes to PCS and a bit more caring than anyone at the other place I was staying, since she's done research on it and I am her son. I don't think my mom has ever tried to accuse me of being manipulative directly, but she's said over and over again that she has problems of her own, she can't help me with everything and she starts to go on about how her other 3 kids (my younger siblings that live with her) drain the life out of her as it is, and she has to help them with stuff too. She's turned the conversation around numerously to her medical problems, like you said your mother did. She's said stuff like "well what about me, you kids are gonna drive me to have a stroke. I'm always having chest pains." - so on and so forth.

She's only done a mild amount of research of PCS - so don't feel bad. I know she hasn't read up as much as she should have because she tends to yell and start argument with me, and with the kids when I'm around. It raises my stress level to the max then I start having brain fog problems and anxiety. I keep asking her nicely to stop yelling and to speak in a lower, less stressful tone because she's causing me to have symptoms and she says "that's not true, i'm not the cause of your problems stop blaming it on me.". So I know she hasn't read the part about stress making things worse, otherwise she would know.

Some people just don't understand PCS - mainly because they haven't been through it and they don't know how severe it is. Should you forgive your mom and move on? Of course, that's your mother your talking about. Just make sure you sit down and have a calm, cool, collective conversation with her to let her know how you feel. I think the emailing thing would be a better idea (if she reads it) so that way she can't interrupt you or say or do anything to cause you any stress, she'll have the choice to either read it or not. Just make sure you put in there that you aren't trying to be manipulative, what your feeling and the needs are real. Maybe take one last stab at forwarding her some more links to read up on your condition and ask her nicely to read them so she has a better understanding to what your going through. When I don't want to confront my mom about something that I think is going to turn in to an argument and cause me stress, I text or email her.

Well, i wish you the best of luck.