greenfrog,

After reading your question <how do you move on from a traumatizing family experience like this?> I looked back at some of your early posts.

A 39 year old person who is still struggling with these family issues probably needs to be talking to a counselor/therapist.

Maybe you need some help with establishing some greater self-reliance and independence. I have a younger brother who is just a few years older than you who has similar issues. The more he dwells on these issues as related to his family/parents, the worse he does. As the saying goes, You make the bed you lie in.

When we decide to get the personal strength to stand up, we grow. This is even true for PCS. Whether we blame our PCS or our parents does not make any difference. We still need to move forward.

Maintain minimal guarded contact and get strong enough to address your issues directly if they are brought up. Otherwise, get over the past and move on.

IMHO,

My best to you.