Phyllis, I have been reading the previous posts. I can't help wondering about these mutual friends telling him what you said. It sounds like you trusted them and they went and told your friend. Not too nice on their part; as it appears they broke the confidence you placed in them. Not a good situation all the way around.

Difficult as it may be, just give him a smile when you see him. He will know you are open and still care about him. Maybe the Facebook may not be good for discussions with him. Just, if possible, let him make the move and hope for an eventual smile back to you.

I wish I could say something that would help you with this dilema. Good for you to vent, we care about you.