I had my upper left wisdom tooth out almost two months ago and I am still having healing issues. I feel your frustration. Did you have any stitches? Mine was a straight pull by a dentist and took less than 3o seconds but still having issues......we have to stay strong and positive. I am almost 40 as well and maybe we just heal slower? I also was taking Lorazepam for anxiety -- but weaned myself off of it.. was only on for a month. That stuff is great but WICKED.