Hi Blaine,
I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I know this is not good for your health and pain levels. I know you said that you live in a rural area but have you tried to find a womans shelter. What you are going through may not be physical but definitely is verbal and emotional abuse. I agree this is not a good situation for your children either. As mothers we have to be sure our daughters know this is not an acceptable behavior for men and our sons need to know this is not how you treat a woan or they leave. It is not an easy task but try to get disability. I agree with Ginnie try you local church or hospitals. Unless you know you have no feelings for him and can't regain them counseling will be useless. But there was a time I thougt that way and now do not. It took a lot of counseling and changing for both of us. Even if you decide to try that you may want to be elsewhere while going through it. You should not take that kind of abuse!!! Oh, and vent anytime you want!