Susanne, you were questioning what Joe did if I told him I wanted the marriage to end. I have asked him to leave - he won't. If I say I want a divorce he says "Do what you have to " very sarcasticly and snidely. He treats the situation the same as if I am trying to address his putting me down - very cruelly. He says if I take the kids he will call the police. And I am no going to do that to my kids. My older children had police issues with thier bio parents and still have night mares, so I can't do that. He Dr.Jekll and Mr. Hyde and won't see.

I wonder how other caregivers have reacted, or have other marriages reacted to these situations?