((((((Nikko)))))),



Sounds like you're conflicted -- you like writing and talking with your father-in-law, but, you don't want any info to go to

I can only imagine how you're feeling. I don't have any advice, just a suggestion: maybe if you write to FIL and tell him that you care about him and would love to keep in touch with him but it brings up 'issues' and further contact with his son that you just can't deal with.

You're definitely right to break all contact with the EX. I ran into the same sort of problem: My psychiatrist said that my ex-husband was taking ANY info that he got from any source and interpreting it as my still wanting to be in touch with him (the EX). Psychiatrist said I should "stonewall" the EX -- don't give any info to our son that could be passed on (not even my schedule or my plans).

I know how much of a struggle this is for you. You've been doing a good job. Stay strong. BIG HUGS (and love).

Barb

PS: Oh, don't know if you could afford it or not, but, you might want to get a cheap, non-traceable cellphone that you could use to communicate with the FIL if you still want to stay in touch with FIL (http://www.ldpost.com/ or http://www.ecallplus.com <<-- about $10 per month for service if you get a used cellphone from http://www.craigslist.com). Or maybe a Hotmail account?? More hugs.