I do know what you mean, Kicker. Maybe not exactly, but close enough. In your situation, I (theoretically) would be grateful I had family BUT not let them in. I'm serious. I'd tell them, "You aren't taking me seriously, I have medical problems that make it very difficult and exhausting for me to have company, and I'm not going to do it. Be mad if you want to." Tough love? Whatever. Don't let them bully you in the name of "what's good for you".

Anyway, YES, I also get tired of that...I refer to it as "Oh goodie, at least I didn't break BOTH legs!"

Once I saw a poster: "Why do blessings always have to come in disguise?" Wish I'd bought it, never could find it again. I think it applies here.