Hi there. Sorry to hear about your situation with your fiance. You asked abut how to deal without being drugged up. My stepson has bipolar disorder and the medication piece is critical to his treatment. It did take some time, but with good communication with his doctor and psychiatrist, we were able to fine tune this. Of course as the body changes, we have to continue to fine tune.... hormones and all!
But just the small amounts of meds he takes increases his quality of life dramatically. And that is what it is all about -- quality of life!
Try some relaxation techniques to get you through the week. My stepson can "feel" a mood coming on and he retreats for a while to cognitively get it under control. Perhaps this can work as well.
Best of luck!