Natalie -

I have retention too. It's not bad enough where I need medication. It was offered to me by my urologist but I opted out at this point. I am not getting UTIs and it is not bad enough to justify medication and subsequent side effects from the medication. Anyhow, I know how you feel.
There are times when I have to go. I hurry to the bathroom only to sit and wait and wait and wait. Sometimes I get frustrated and just get up and leave. It is so annoying. I know this sounds weird but other times I just tell my brain and bladder to get with the program and work together. haha