Originally Posted by reverett123

i'm not going to play marriage councillor here (maybe more like a divorce councillor), but certain things that could work for you or against you for the rest of your life need to be decided now.

First and foremost, you've got three little guys that need you real bad. You mentioned that you are an outdoors type. Even in delaware, there are fish to be caught and guns to be fired, even if only at a range. You are the only person on the planet that is thinking about that and how important that can be to those three.

I assume that your wife loves them. Too. And that she has some sense of responsibility. After all, she has tried to make it work and you don't seem to think that she's been cheating on you. So, let's assume that she can be a decent partner. Because of the kids, you two are stuck with each other for the rest of your lives. Both of you face it, accept it, and get down to the task at hand.

There are some strong cards here. You are in a position to give some stability to their lives and a home to come to after school. She can concentrate on earning the money to support them, which takes the pressure off your disability payments. If you need it, it might even be possible to work out alimony for you at some point.

And the boys themselves are a big "investment" for both of you. Someday, you're gotng to both need their help. That era is going to be a lot easier if their memories are of mom and dad pulling together for their sake even when it would have been easier to run away. Good luck.