I am so glad to hear that you have found someone you both can like. You really are in a better situation, when your husband goes with you. that means that he wants to work at the relationship. It already seems that the therapy is working. I am very happy for you. If she can open his eyes in a new way, it will bring you closer together, maybe more than you have been in a long time.
I hope your pain levels, go down. Maybe they will when there is less stress on the home front. Good news from you is fantastic. Keep in touch ginnie