Hi Broken Medic,

I am a broken nurse. I am waiting on divorce til my hs sophomore graduates. For us, that means the children's SSDI portion and custody will be a moot point.

It was explained to me that my SSDI is my income. That will be compared to my stbx's income at the time of divorce. Whoever has the greater income could be paying spousal support to the ex. If your wife is working FT as an RN, I am assuming that her income will be greater than yours. The length of the marriage will impact the amount of any ss. SS can be offset by an unequal division of assets (ie...you could agree to keep the house and any equity instead of ss, etc)

Generally, the children's portion of the SSDI should follow them.....if you have primary custody, it goes to your household, but if your stbx has primary custody, that would be your child support payments.

Are you able to be a full time caregiver for the kids despite your disability ? I can't drive (or function much at all) some days, so I was told that would count against me in a custody battle. Is your wife agreeable to you being the primary caretaker of the kids ?