Well, Jana, it's not normal to have bloodshot eyes and what if that is the impetus for the rubbing? If it is an allergic response to the IVIG, it may not kick in right afterwards. It may not be an emergency, however, we are not doctors and only they can assess something new like this. I like to play the "devil's advocate" as much as you do but sometimes you just have to trust your instincts and see a doctor.
Mike, You are very lucky to have such a great spouse. Sometimes you might need someone else to talk to. Have you ever thought about seeing a psychologist? Maybe one who is trained in meditation techniques? You don't have to "change" but adapting really helps.

I can put myself into a meditative state so quickly after years of doing it. These days I refuse to get stressed out. It's not worth it!
I can't recall, are you on Pred? Has anyone checked your adrenal function or thyroid lately? Sometimes the stress response has a physical cause.
I hope you keep a journal at least, Mike. And if things get worse or you have 1-sided symptoms, please go in. Take care.
Annie