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Originally Posted by finz
Hi Broken Medic,
I am a broken nurse. I am waiting on divorce til my hs sophomore graduates. For us, that means the children's SSDI portion and custody will be a moot point.
It was explained to me that my SSDI is my income. That will be compared to my stbx's income at the time of divorce. Whoever has the greater income could be paying spousal support to the ex. If your wife is working FT as an RN, I am assuming that her income will be greater than yours. The length of the marriage will impact the amount of any ss. SS can be offset by an unequal division of assets (ie...you could agree to keep the house and any equity instead of ss, etc)
Generally, the children's portion of the SSDI should follow them.....if you have primary custody, it goes to your household, but if your stbx has primary custody, that would be your child support payments.
Are you able to be a full time caregiver for the kids despite your disability ? I can't drive (or function much at all) some days, so I was told that would count against me in a custody battle. Is your wife agreeable to you being the primary caretaker of the kids ?
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Hey Finz,
The wife is a manager. She is the manager of a womens health pavilion. She makes pretty good coin. So ya, it's a no brainer that she is the bread winner. She also (provided I stay, as I will take the pressure's of a sinlge mom with 3 boys off her shoulders) plans on going to school (online) to get her masters in the next 6 mos. to a year. And I know it may sound evil, but part of me thinks that giving her the stress free enviroment to obtain that Masters degree would also benefit me. Her goal is to be an Adminstrator of a Hosptial. And that mindset and her disposition that fuels that drive, is what is killing us. Her mind is at work, even when at home.
The icing on the cake was a few weeks ago when she said that I would most likely end up with custody of the boys. She says, "I know I would not be able to care for them as you could, with my career going that way." That floored me. But, I suppose at least she is being honest with me and herself. She is a good mom. But she wants her career goal more. I was a dummy and never went back to school. She has worked hard to get where she is now. And I can't....truly...know how that feels.
If I had financial help from her (whether ordered or not), I know I could give these boys a fighting chance at getting off the ground. Their college ed. is already secured enough that by the time they get ready, grades willing, will have enough to pick their school. We did that right after they were born. So that's a huge burden lifted later on. It's just a matter of us, (the wife and I) figuring out our future. Man, this **** sucks! Just wish it wasn't so damn tough to get along these days. Oh well, pull up my britches be strong for the kids. Thanks!