Sounds like you're a bloke who fell on hard times which sucks. I'm sorry to hear you and your gf broke up, it must've been horrible! As for AA I think everyone has summed it up. If it works for you it works, you just have to realise you're dealing with a huge range of people and personalities. If you're uncomfortable then no way should you stay. That said, it doesn't mean your alcohol consumption isn't dangerous or an addiction. I never went to AA again after my first session because of the people, just didn't see it as my path. I hope you can find yours. Work at it, it's difficult but there are ways out there without AA, especially if you think there may be another reason. Whine your drinking. Psychologists always help