Hi!

Lee is right. You must take care of yourself too. If you do not take care of yourself, you will not be able to take care of anyone else.

I had 2 grandparents (one passed) with alzheimers. Aside from my multiple disabilities, I took care of them for 5 years. I was hospitalized for suicidal thoughts during that time because I was not taking care of myself. I then realized that I was no longer able to take care of my grandfather. The guilt and the depression of knowing I was not able to do it on my own anymore was tremendous. But I did not have the support that I needed. I realized having him in a home with others with dementia was the best thing I could do for him. My grandmother is now in the same home my grandfather was in. My point is that you must be aware of how difficult it is and when you can no longer do it on your own. I hope this is way down the road and you are able to be with him in your own home. It is not easy and you must use resources from the beginning to make both of your lives worth living.

I hope you have support. If not, seek it.

It is very unfortunate at times the cards life deals us. Know that there are people out there who understand and support you here.